Every girl says she wants a man who knows what he wants. Guys hesitate because sometimes they factor in what she wants. If I make a bad choice will she leave me? Its not the choice you made that catches her interest. It’s the fact that you made a choice. It’s not what you desire that matters, it’s that you have desire. That’s what’s attractive to women. The process of standing on your own two feet and making progress. She doesn’t care what you are doing, as long as you’re doing something.