Thinking is a great quality. It's what separates us from animals. Unfortunately dating in the beginning at least, is quite animal. There is a required forethought when approaching a girl and then and interwoven mixture of animal tenacity and conscious thought. Some say it might be instinct to know when to appropriately apply one or the other, and some might not think they have that instinct. But even instincts can be trained. For me... It's music. Music build's and then it drops. It's push and pull. It's build and release. I'm not very good at anything regarding music. However despite my lack of talent (instinct) I learned to play the guitar.